Saturday, December 2, 2017

One More Light

Who cares if one more light goes out? Well, I do.

Today's post is a little bit different from what I usually write about, but this topic has been on my mind for a while now. As some of you might already know, a few months ago Chester Bennington of Linkin Park committed suicide. I grew up listening to Linkin Park and played their music religiously, so when I heard the news I was in complete shock. I know its common to hear the passing of a celebrity however, his death has left a huge impact on me. Not a day has gone by since his passing that I haven't thought about him, which at first felt really strange to me. Now I believe the reason why his story touched me is because of the fact that I've had some people close to me try to commit suicide. Growing up I didn't really have a lot of friends and I cannot be thankful enough for the amazing friends I have now. Just the thought of possibly losing them made me an emotional wreck, and me not knowing what to do about the situation just made me feel that much worse. If I were to lose them my life would be completely different right now. The saddest part about the whole thing is that depression really has no face. Someone can appear to be happy on the outside, but can be beating themselves up inside. This is why I can't stress enough how important it is to check up on even your "strongest" friends, because at the end of the day you really have no idea what they are going through. How do I know? Because I'm one of them.

For years I've been stuck in a battle with myself and I'm still not sure what to do, or how to handle it 'til this day. Whenever I open up to my friends about how I feel or what I've been through, most of their responses are usually "wow, I had no idea." I've always had a big heart and want the best for people. That being said, I am always trying to encourage my friends to follow their dreams and stay positive, when in reality, I struggle with that myself. Although I've been told I have very positive aura, I still find myself feeling down every now and then without any particular reason.

After doing so much research and trying to figure out what the hell is going on with me, I believe that I might be suffering from moderate depression. So far all the signs have been pointing to yes. The thing is, "might" is not good enough. The word depressed gets thrown around like nothing and I do not want to self-diagnose myself. I want answers, but I'm not sure how to even explain the way I'm feeling. My breakdowns have always been so random and while the uncontrollable tears roll down my face, I search for answers why and constantly fail to find an explanation. I've never bothered telling people about these breakdowns because I don't want anyone to feel the need to pity me. I always felt that if I told somebody I was feeling down, but didn't know the reason why then they'd think I'm just looking for attention - and if anyone truly knows me, then they'd know the last thing I want from anyone is attention. I don't have enough fingers to count the times I've pretended to be asleep and silently cried in my room to avoid my parents from asking me what's wrong. All these years have gone by and they still don't have a single clue. 

So what is the point of me sharing all of this on the internet? Well, writing is the best way for me to express myself at the moment. With this post, I'm hoping to touch someone who might be going through a similar situation. You are not alone and you will never be alone. I've created the habit of bottling up all of my emotions until I reach my breaking point and I'm asking you to not be like me. Depression is not a joke. Mental illness is very much real. Self care is so important and like any other significant change you want to make in your life, it needs to come from within. Don't be afraid to speak up.

xo, Lisette

Saturday, November 25, 2017

Facing Your Fashion Fears

It's okay to step out of your comfort zone!

If you know me, then you probably already know that I am quite the minimalist. My entire wardrobe is made up of primarily black, white, and grey, with a few pops of colors every here and there. I always assumed that I preferred the more neutral colors because of the fact that I am pretty reserved and like to look cute without having to draw much attention to myself. However, due to social media and seeing all the bold colors hitting the runway during Fashion Week, I've been wanting to add a bit more pizzazz to my everyday looks.

How can I challenge my fashion fears?

As generic as it sounds, just go for it! If you think about it too much, you might end up completely changing your mind. Get rid of the thought that maybe things just "don't look right on you." (I'm guilty of doing this myself, so I know how it feels.) Remember, if you can put it on, then you can pull it off!

With this look, I decided to keep things fairly simple. One thing I love about Fall is being able to layer and play around with different textures. Being the minimalist that I am, I did not want to give myself a heart attack by throwing on every crazy item I own all at once. However, this vintage metallic lace skirt that I thrifted a while back has been sitting in my closet way too long, and I thought it was about time to let this gem out! While this piece is a lot bolder than what I would normally go for, I still felt confident in it and even got a few compliments, which is always a plus.

Long story short, don't let any fashion trends scare you. Do you want to wear that ruffled blouse you've had hanging in your closet for the longest? Go right ahead! Want to blind people with your highlight AND your metallic skirt? I won't stop you. Companies like Dia&Co. have Try-Day Fridays allowing their employees to step out of their comfort zones and try something new. YouTuber Safiya Nygaard has a whole series dedicated to trying out new/weird things for a week. It's always good to experiment a bit. You never know, you just might enjoy it.

What is the most unorthodox piece hanging in your closet? Let me know in the comments below!

xo, Lisette

Wednesday, November 8, 2017

Holiday Style Hacks

Hello, November!

Yup, it's that time of the year again! October flew by and now the holidays are right around the corner. I absolutely love the holidays however, it is also one of the most stressful times of the year for me. Being a full-time student and preparing for finals, while also being a product development intern at a shoe company, it has been tough trying to find additional time to hang out with loved ones or go shopping. Although I might not be able to do any shopping for you, I can help you out with these quick holiday style hacks.

1. Use double-sided tape.

Honestly, the creation of double-sided tape has blessed me on so many different occasions. I've been using ShowStoppers' double-sided tape to prevent any unwanted wardrobe malfunctions such as keeping a revealing dress in place and concealing bra straps. What I love about this product is that it comes in a small, sleek package that is perfect for the average person on the go. I've also noticed that the tape lasts pretty long. I have used it to keep one of my favorite cowl neck tops in place and my knee highs from running down and was amazed to see that the tape lasted all day, even throughout humidity. Want to try ShowStoppers for yourself? You can use the code LISETTE2 for $2 off, valid through November 20, 2017!

2. Hairspray can be used for things other than just your hair!
Nothing is worse than planning to wear a cute skirt or dress with stockings, only to find out that your tights have been snagged or ripped. Here in New York, it gets extremely cold during the holiday seasons and although I love to show some leg, I don't want to freeze to death while doing it. Runs on stockings might be great for achieving the whole grunge/punk rock look, but you can actually prevent them from happening by spraying hairspray on your tights both before wearing and storing them away.

3. Don't be afraid to break out your heels!

I know a lot of people dread having to dress up because in many cases it means to wear heels. As someone who owns a lot of shows, I know that heels aren't always the most comfortable to wear. However, you shouldn't let that discourage you! I'm sure many of you already know about the Band-Aid trick to keep your shoes from rubbing and peeling your skin, but what happens if you don't have any easily accessible? It turns out that applying some lip balm on the back of your heels also helps to prevent blisters. For this hack, I highly recommend using a lip balm with a thick and waxy formula such as Burt's Bees. Anything with shimmer would just increase irritation.

What holiday hacks are you going to try out this year? Do you have any hacks of your own? Feel free to leave them in the comments below!

xo, Lisette
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